A man in a bookstore buys a book on loneliness and every woman in the store hits on him. A woman buys a book on loneliness and the store clears out.
~ Doug Coupland
Imagine the shock of watching Janet Mbugua or Lilian Muli shoot herself in the head during a live TV broadcast…..!
On the morning of July 15, 1974 Christine Chubbuck did exactly that. In the middle of reading news she calmly said “In keeping with Channel 40’s policy of bringing you the latest in ‘blood and guts’, and in living color, you are going to see another first—attempted suicide.” She drew a revolver and shot herself in the head.
But why did she do it? Well it is said her lack of relationships had generally driven her to depression; her mother later said “her suicide was simply because her personal life was not enough. She’d ask guys out to coffee and they’d say no, and not ask back later”
Chris had lamented to co-workers that her 30th birthday was approaching and she was still a virgin who had never been on more than two dates with a man. It is not that she was not beautiful, it is just that she suffered what Wikipedia calls ‘Involuntary Celibacy’. Her brother said that her constant self-deprecation for being “dateless” contributed to her ongoing depression. In the end she chose to take her life while just 29 years old.
So dudes, do not underestimate the pressure the opposite sex have to endure. You might imagine that it is all fun and games with all girls spoilt for choice and rejecting frogs along the easy road to meeting their prince; it is not.
And ladies, we appreciate the difficult position you’re in, but isn’t pretending to be a secondary prude in the face of a scarcity of suitors and then lamenting how men only want one thing self defeating when it comes to combating InCel?
Difficult questions for difficult times…..