“One act of beneficence, one act of real usefulness, is worth all the abstract sentiment in the world”

We are so obsessed with doing that we have no time and no imagination left for being. As a result, men are valued not for what they are but for what they do or what they have – for their usefulness.
Thomas Merton

Sometimes people wonder why I act like a jerk; why I look at everyone the same way…. from the most beautiful of girls to the most homely; from the most well-heeled of men to the most impecunious: I treat them with either much respect, sheer indifference, or utter contempt; and I make no apologies for it.

Here’s why: The world has taught me that people only care or respect or love you for what you can do for them, not for your niceness or your beauty. If a girl needs a drink then you will be her friend if you have the money for one, at that point it won’t matter that you are the funniest guy in the world. If an employer is looking for an accountant then you have to have accounting skills, your bleeding kind heart will not count for shit if you can’t balance books. If a man is looking for a one night stand then it won’t matter that you’re the most beautiful girl from your village, if it’s not going to happen he won’t be staying around for longer on account of your face alone.

Like David Wong of Cracked puts it: “If you want to know why society seems to shun you, or why you seem to get no respect, it’s because society is full of people who need things. They need houses built, they need food to eat, they need entertainment, they need fulfilling sexual relationships. The moment you came into the world, you became part of a system designed purely to see to people’s needs.
Either you will go about the task of seeing to those needs by learning a unique set of skills, or the world will reject you, no matter how kind, giving and polite you are. You will be poor, you will be alone, you will be left out in the cold.”

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